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The Intelligent, The Mystic, and the Entertainer: The Triad of Enlightenment

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Quick Fact

-The mystics, the intelligent, and the entertainers can come together and produce an incredible amount of enlightenment and positive energy!

Intro

In my searching and with my experiences I’ve discovered that the mystic, the intelligent, and the entertainer can (and sometimes do) work together to produce a large amount of enlightenment. Why, how, and how can we use this knowledge to enhance our wellbeing even more than we already do? Read on to find out!

Overview

I began thinking about which archetypes are the most enlightening – is it the tyrant who makes your life harder, therefore makes you stronger? Is it the anxious woman who inadvertently shows you the value of your own confidence? Is it the grandmother/grandfather? Is it the father/mother? Is it the child? 

Of course, each kind of person has their own unique qualities that help themselves and others, however, three stick out as being particularly enlightening and necessary for our survival and expansion:

The Intelligent, the Mystic, and the Entertainer.

How can we learn and apply life lessons without intelligence? How can we expand our consciousness without being able to open our third eye? How can we enjoy life if we aren’t able to be entertained?

These kinds of people can easily be seen as vessels of pleasure and enlightenment when compared to other kinds of people! Sit back and enjoy as I make my case for something that we may already know somewhere in the deep waters of our psyche.

Why These Three?

We wake up and do tasks. Some of us do the same (or roughly the same) tasks every day.

Many of us are acting out archetypes that encourage ourselves and others to keep doing tasks. This, in and of itself, is why anyone who doesn’t encourage the completion of tasks is closer to enlightenment than anyone who does encourage the completion of tasks.

Part of this is because many of us consider tasks to be “boring,” “dull,” “monotonous,” etc and part of it is because there is so much meaning to be found when we do not continue with our tasks but instead fall into thinking, meditation, or entertainment even without a negative opinion of them. Yes, everyone has their redeeming qualities, but those who break free of routine (and the obsession thereof) and encourage others to see past it as well deserve their own special place in our society.

The ones who can do this the best, as it seems to me, are the intelligent, the mystic, and the entertaining.

Perhaps these three are completing tasks while their qualities shine – it isn’t necessarily the case that they must stand still and do nothing, but it’s the knowledge, consciousness, and positive feelings they give while doing such tasks. They can see past doing tasks for the sake of doing tasks (as well as the obsession and constant pushing to do such) and they can argue that doing/being other things provides far more meaning… And be correct!

This is why these three are so important – they tell us to stop and think, stop and meditate, or to have fun! All of these qualities are great, and they’re even better when they’re together whether it be three separate people or three archetypes within one being! You can have intelligence but if you aren’t conscious or enthusiastic, it won’t go very far. You may be conscious but if you cannot think about it and communicate the value of consciousness others won’t benefit from your sight. And of course, if you’re entertaining but unable to think or understand exactly what you’re doing… That may be the worst of them all ;).

And if you want to say, “but thinking and meditating are tasks” I understand your perspective. It seems most important to stop doing physical tasks first, participate in thinking and/or meditating second, then stop doing anything at all third. My perspective is that thinking and meditating aren’t tasks but are useful ways to experience enlightenment. I’m glad we understand each other :).

The Intelligent

In this scenario I define intelligence as the ability to properly:

-Observe

-Research

-Understand

-Create conclusions

-Communicate understanding

-Change one’s opinions and conclusions when new information is presented

-Adapt (if needed) when new information is presented

-Figure out and think along the lines of what is best for themselves and others

-Perform self-individualization and self-integration

If we simply had the mystic and the entertainer, we wouldn’t have anyone to observe these two and be able to make striking and stunning conclusions that make the rest say “I never thought of that.” If you combine that with proper communication and enthusiastic delivery and you have someone who is regenerative and meaningful, two qualities that enlighten and expand consciousness.

One of the proper paths of the intelligent is to, indeed, become the mystic. However, one quality I encourage you with developed minds to retain is the ability and willingness to communicate your metaphysical findings, which is something the naturally-born mystic may never do. 

The Mystic

The Mystic is:

-Conscious of metaphysical happenings

-Meaningful in and of themselves

-In complete control of their mind and their emotions

-Often calm and serene

-Understanding

The mystic is the most important piece of the puzzle, especially if the qualities of the entertainer are present. If the mystic is not entertaining their valuable state of consciousness is probably only experienced by themselves and, therefore, the others do not advance as efficiently as they could with an entertaining delivery of metaphysical matters. Mystics almost never need to enhance their intelligence since they already have what intelligence has to offer, however, I encourage you mystics to communicate your states of consciousness and how others can open their third eye.

As a mystic, becoming a spiritual teacher and an entertainer at the same time is a quality path to go down, or even simply becoming an entertainer! Also, the more we can awaken the three archetypes within each of us the more enlightened we will be!

The Entertainer

The Entertainer is capable of:

-Enthusiasm and enthusiastic delivery

-Confidence

-Being engaging

-Being empathetic 

-Making others laugh

If a teacher is not enthusiastic and humorous when they teach, they will bore their students. If a mystic is not entertaining and enthusiastic when they speak of their mystical qualities people will probably consider them strange or even crazy! Entertainment is the part of life people respond to the most, and it’s often the final step before someone else hears a conscious message (the mystic arrives at a stage, the intelligent observes the mystic and communicates about their state, the entertainer reaches out and enhances their communication by injecting it with an enthusiastic, engaging attitude).

If an entertainer has no intelligence and no mystical qualities about them their entertainment will only go so far. I encourage you, entertainers, to develop your intelligence first and your mystical qualities second so that you understand what you’re doing, change what you’re doing if necessary, and know how to do it! 

When They’re Added Together

If a quality intelligent, mystic, and entertainer are together they participate in a triangle of knowledge, consciousness, healing, advancement, and laughter! Since an entertainer is in the midst of our fantasy scene the happenings of this group will probably reach other people through social media, thereby enhancing the lives of many who watch it in one or more ways! 

For this reason, I argue that it’s very important to have conferences, talks, and interviews with the best in all three ways of life. These can be viewed in real life and through YouTube!

However, the best option is to develop these three qualities within each one of us. We can simultaneously be intelligent, mystic, and entertaining at the same time, and the sooner we realize this and begin to develop these parts of life within ourselves the more meaningful and conscious life we will live! 

The Importance Of Each Being Skilled/Talented

I’ve talked about each kind of person developing the other two parts of being, however, it’s also important for an intelligent person to develop their intelligence, a mystic to become as aware as possible, and an entertainer to become as entertaining as possible. This should probably take priority over developing the qualities which are not as developed because being very good in one area of life will open up opportunities to advance into the other areas of life. Plus, it’s great for your ego!

The Potential of Enlightenment and Healing This Way

The potential is limitless! It seems like almost everyone who is none of these three archetypes responds to at least one of these, and responding to at least one of these (hopefully highly-developed) archetypes while possessing none will, at least, give them the potential to enlighten!

If we see and become the best of these three kinds of people we will reach our full potential of enlightenment and healing. Of course, the potential is limitless, and we will reach it at the same time ;).

Conclusion

Thank you for reading! I encourage you to stop reading and do nothing for a little while, then continue reading ;).

Self-Improvement and Realization – Why One Works and the Other Doesn’t

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Quick Facts

-Self-improvement is where we improve our skills, and self-realization is realizing who we already are.

-Self-realization is what happens when we look into our inner world and realize ourselves!

-SR is often greater than self-improvement since self-improvement ultimately leads to the opportunity to realize ourselves.

-Identifying with ‘the improver’ almost always makes it more difficult to improve ourselves to the furthest extent we’re capable of!

-When we realize who we truly are, we almost always see how beautiful we truly are…

Intro

We see the call for self-improvement everywhere – schools, colleges, gyms, workplaces, training programs, various kinds of sports, and of course the infamous “self-improvement” communities that are scattered around if you look hard enough.

The game of self-improvement has become the game to play when I speak for American society, and if you show no interest in the game then finding people you can befriend will be difficult since everybody is busy “improving” themselves in one way or another.

It’s also come to my attention that some of my writings come dangerously close to saying something to the extent of, “You should improve yourself in order to feel better.” This is not the intention of my writings; my writings exist to help you find the silence in your life, whether that means a silent mind, a change of environment, wisdom to help you handle your chatty friends and family, etc. 

Today I’d like to make a case against self-improvement and for self-realization, since I have observed “realized” people and “self-improvement” people and have come to the conclusion that realized people generally have better lives than self-improvement people (please note that the word “better” implies that self-improvement must take place in order for an individual to become realized. This is not the case and I simply use it for lack of terminology).

I’ll articulate the two main problems with self-improvement and then I’ll explain what I mean when I say that somebody should “realize” themselves. Grab your popcorn because this one’s going to be fun!

The Improver

The idea of improving yourself is simple; you start out at point A and you want to get to point B. However, since you don’t have the presence of mind, physical fitness, or confidence to do such a thing you need to improve yourself in order to do so, and this can be done through schooling, studying through other means, working out, having somebody train you, going to yoga class, or even meditation.

Of course, the end result of this improvement is a feeling of competence, confidence, and worthiness in the society in which you live (which you can have right now if you choose to, but more on that below). However, there’s one small problem with this; if you’re improving yourself then who is improving the improver? And of course who is improving the improver of the improver?

This gets pretty trippy if you’re the one improving yourself because eventually, you have to ask, “Which part of me is improving and which part of me is the improver? And which part of me is responsible for improving the improver, and which part of me is responsible for improving the improver of the improver?!” 

We can already see that self-improvement cannot work because every improver needs improving, and who is going to improve the final improver? We can argue that a circle of people can manage to improve each-other as a group, and while that is possible there is still one more problem…

Pain

To “improve yourself” you must go through the “struggle” or the “tunnel” or whatever one might call it so that he or she can be more steady and secure in the future. This means going through a lot of pain (physically, psychologically, or both) in order to train your body, go to school, work those long hours, or whatever it is you do. 

This is a tragic model of life because it simply doesn’t work like this. Pain leads to more pain and pleasure leads to more pleasure. If you’re experiencing pain as a result of trying to improve yourself then it’s more than likely that you’ll end up in a place of responsibility that produces more of the feeling you want to feel! In other words, you want to feel the pain that you feel when you go through “self-improvement” then who’s to say that you don’t want it to go away when you’ve “fully improved,” if you even get to that point?

It should be noted that learning/doing something because you’re interested in it is not the same as learning/doing something because you think you “have to;” if you work out, study, etc because it’s interesting to you then more power to you. I am mainly speaking about those who do something because “it’s good for them;” this mindset points to an unspoken assumption that can be summed up in a sentence such as “I am no good as I am and I need to be better.” 

The Realization

This assumption, “I am no good as I am and I need to be better” is simply a thought, a feeling of shame, or both. When the self-improver realizes this he or she becomes liberated from the cycle and their emotional pain turns into a feeling of relief as if they had just dropped their backpack after a twenty-mile hike.

I make the case for self-realization because it is the actual antidote to self-improvement! If someone really thought it through they would realize that they never had to improve because they’ve always known what they’ve wanted to do all along, and it probably didn’t have anything to do with what they were doing to “improve” themselves at all.

How Do I Realize Myself?

It’s important to consciously shift your mindset from the “improver” to the “realizer” because otherwise, the heading above will sound like another tactic for self-improvement. However, realizing your self is simple; pay attention to your thoughts, your feelings, and your environment around you. Pay attention to the one who pays attention to your thoughts, and then pay attention to that one. This is meditation at its core; it is not a tool but a state of understanding yourself and the world around you.

Doing this is frighteningly simple, and when you realize that you can start manifesting your own feelings into your life (competence, confidence, worthiness, connection, love, bliss, you name it!) then people will start to heal simply by standing in your presence on their own path towards realizing the same thing. It’s truly wonderful.

The Urgency

I urgently encourage you to shift your mindset from the “improver” to the “realizer” as quickly as possible. We (Americans, at least) are in a society that is so greatly focused on self-improvement that they’re hurting themselves and everybody/everything else around them.

Instead of this, it’s very important to seek self-realization and to develop an understanding of the world inside of them and the world around them while consciously deciding to do away with self-improvement.

This is a vital change that must happen soon if we’re going to thrive as a species, and it starts with you, the reader. Or readers. It’s possible that more than one person is reading this post on the same computer. I don’t know :).

Conclusion

Thank you so much for reading my article! I greatly appreciate you being here, and I’ll see you in the next one :).

Intuition: The Basics and Beyond

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Quick Facts

-Intuition is you telling yourself what you ought to know for the moment! It can also lead you to a full understanding of the irrational mind!

-You can tell yourself information that’s in your subconscious, information you’ve learned before but since “forgotten.”

-Anger can masquerade as intuition, but remember, intuition always has a higher vibration than anger, so if you aren’t sure, then pay attention to how you feel!

-American society often neglects intuition for other, less important things, feelings, concepts, and people.

-Intuition leads to a mental state that’s beyond itself, and once you get there, you won’t experience it anymore!

Intro

Before I begin I must note that this post is a very difficult article to create; explaining information gathered by intuitive means is fairly simple, but explaining how intuition works and why it’s important for today’s society is something different altogether.

I will not explain what intuition is perfectly, and if you see something and feel it to be false it is for one of two reasons. One, I have explained something incorrectly and your “lie detector” is going off, or two, what I’ve said is true enough to raise resistance that exists within yourself. In either case, you will benefit from these words as long as they are spoken from my own personal truth, which I intend to write alongside. And so we begin!

What Is Intuition?

Intuition is the knowledge that is accessed from various dimensions of the mind/your self with the sole purpose of leading you into the full realization of the irrational mind, or what to do in any given situation. This is done by one part of your self (often referred to as “higher self” but in reality is only another part of self) sending a message to another part of your self.

Intuition is feeling-based. if something or someone feels “off” or feels “right,” that’s intuition at work. It can manifest as a voice in your head (“take the long way to work today”), as a meaningful image (“that painting looks absolutely stunning. I should paint more”), as a feeling (“that person feels approachable”), or any combination of the three (which we normally call an “experience”).

It’s often known as knowledge gained from looking within. That is to say, knowledge that is given to yourself from yourself and not from somebody else to yourself.

If you ask yourself, “What should I do today,” the answer you receive will be an intuitive answer by nature (so long as it wasn’t answered by somebody else), and doing this often will build trust with yourself which will bring you into new levels of realization.

Why Is Intuition Important?

Intuition (from what I can tell) serves to change one’s perspective, geographical area, and/or general feelings about life. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard a voice tell me to do some random thing and have it work out for the best – and vice versa.

When people say “listen to your gut” they know what they’re talking about, because they know that listening to their gut at least makes them feel more fulfilled at that moment and that ignoring it makes them feel guilty, almost as if they just did a disservice to themselves.

The reason I put emphasis on this is that intuition often asks for irrational acts that don’t seem to have a point, or that even defy logic completely, such as walking down a few extra aisles at the grocery store or stopping to look at something that you’d normally bypass.

Listening to it will seem completely out of the question for the rational mind, but intuition is (at least in these times) a call to balance the rational mind with the irrational mind since we tend to favor the rational over the irrational and since balance is required between all dualities in order for their existence to continue. 

Intuition can bring you out of sketchy situations, bring you to do things that are necessary for your growth, put you in the presence of people you need to be with, give you the experience you need to have at that moment. It’s an absolute must because it’s you telling yourself what you need to know, and it teaches you lessons that you couldn’t possibly learn from anybody else.

Intuition and American Society

American society is largely unaware of the concept of intuition, much less how it works or what it does. On top of this, intuition is dismissed by some who are aware of its presence.  But, this usually doesn’t last long since intuition shouts louder and louder the more it is ignored.

I’ve noticed that the more intuitive somebody is the more isolated they are. This seems to be in direct correlation with American society favoring the rational mind over the irrational mind, which leads to intuition being undervalued, which leads to intuitive people being undervalued.

The resistance to intuition is very strong and largely unconscious but it’s slowly eroding away as people begin to act in more chaotic fashions and without much rhyme or reason.

However, this too is unconscious. Most people do not seem to realize their chaotic tendencies until they begin to negatively affect aspects of their conscious life.

This too is slowly changing thanks to our lifestyle becoming more sedentary than ever before in the history of mankind. This also allows for the opportunity to experience intuitive happenings, however, this is mostly a missed opportunity since Americans tend to keep themselves busy all hours of the day, and so intuition stays ignored and the irrational mind stays unrealized.

The intuitive must be seen as a temporary voice of intuition for the non-intuitive until the latter can find their intuitive information through their own power; after this happens there won’t be any need to separate between intuitive and non-intuitive people, we’ll simply be known as “people.”

It’s also come to my attention that intuitive people tend to lack a general sense of self. That is to say, they haven’t realized as much of the irrational mind as they would have liked to by that point.

It’s very important for these people, in particular, to be confident in their abilities to guide others, because the intuitive who realizes they have a long journey into completing their growth has almost completely realized the irrational mind, and now they must learn to completely balance the irrational mind with the rational mind.

This can be done by helping the rationally minded to vibrationally ascend whilst observing, learning from, and applying any parts of their rationally minded aspects to your life. After all, helping the rationally minded to raise their vibration will help you see the rationality in yourself, and this is the key for you (the intuitive) to find balance and feel like your job is complete.

It is also possible to balance your own rational and irrational mind without helping other rationally minded people, however, this is a rare occurrence that requires an even more specially gifted individual to complete.

However, if one can balance the rational and irrational mind within themselves without any assistance (after the conscious decision has been made to do such) they will have the greatest realization (for lack of better wording) out of the entire human race.

Most intuitives require assistance to balance the rational and irrational mind, however, once this is done they become as complete of a person as they could possibly be, and so they spread understanding in the most complete manner possible.

Where Does Intuition Lead?

The specific end result of listening to your intuition will be unique for you and you alone, however listening to it will lead you into further realization of the mind in one way or another.

Some religions claim to help you with this by advertising peace and tranquility, however, it is ultimately your choice to make and your journey to live if you wish to listen to your intuition.

The road will be rough and windy with a chance of thunder and lightning at first, but you will eventually find yourself in a place (whether physically, mentally, or both) that you just want to tell other people about.

Imagine living in a mental state that you want to tell other people about… That is the bliss of following your intuition.

For Those Already On The Path

It is important to realize that swimming through the different dimensions of the mind has no end unless you decide to stop doing it.

Once your lessons have been learned and your peace has been felt it will be time to arrive at the place you’ve always wanted to be, and then the disturbing dreams will shift into something less extreme and your life will begin to mellow on the mental level and become more active on the physical level.

At one point you may not want to help other people. You may consider yourself a retired soldier, and indeed you are, but further exploration via intuitive investigation will eventually lead you to the people who need and want your help, and this is where you shine the most. 

For Those Already There…

Keep going!

Conclusion

While intuition isn’t understood/is misunderstood by most of the American population, its benefits are far beyond anyone’s wildest imagination, and the information it provides will help provide a balance between the rational and irrational mind that is sorely needed at this point in time.

It is another step in the right direction, one that I hope we sooner rather than later for sanity’s sake.

What Is Self-Integration, and Why Is It Meaningful?

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Quick Facts

-Self-integration is the process of integrating every part of your personality into one, whole self!

-Resistance, created by ourselves or picked up from others, often keeps us from being our whole selves. Self-integration is the “cure” for this. It is also the cure for ignoring and/or suppressing yourself.

-Participating in self-integration makes you a whole human being since you’re conscious of your entire personality!

-Self-integration can be painful and scary, but it’s more than worth it!

-Going through self-integration gives you more self-control and more enjoyment of your life the more you do it.

-Asking yourself questions about yourself speeds up the process and makes it easier!

Intro

Self-integration is the process of consciously disidentifying from your subconscious processes, seeing/feeling them completely, and consciously integrating them into your personality. This is a way to go about psychological healing as it helps you bring up and properly process trauma/unwanted thought patterns so that you can “face your fears” and release them into the ether!

What I’m about to tell you may seem like it’s all sunshine and rainbows – and some of it is! But some of it requires looking deep into yourself and shining a flashlight on the parts that want to stay hidden within your psyche. These parts (the psychic processes that exist within our individual subconscious minds) are usually the “nasty feelings” we feel if we’re going about our daily lives and we say something that we’re “not supposed” to say, or if we’re sitting in our home and suddenly thoughts start racing through your head that you don’t want to think about, or if you become angry while you’re at work, or if you’re anxious because you’re about to go out on a date.

The good news is every problem you have is your own and, therefore, solvable! From what I’ve observed, the most effective way to solve these problems is by consciously integrating all of your psychic processes so that you may form a complete perspective of life (perspective is everything, after all), experience an abundance of mental health, and much more!

The Decision to Integrate

Integrating yourself is no easy task unless you choose otherwise. Once you decide to go down the path of integration there will be a fair amount of suffering and a fair amount of pleasure – however, both experiences will be meaningful and will lead to a responsible, healthy lifestyle that will draw other people toward you like a magnet (in a good way)! If you haven’t made the choice then it’s ultimately your decision – you can decide to live your life the same as you always have, or you can choose to see all of your personal subconscious (even unconscious) processes you’ve suppressed and/or see the collective subconscious mind and the meaning therein! I will not persuade you in one direction or another since both kinds of people (the integrated and non-integrated) will find their lives to be meaningful, albeit in very different ways.

I will, however, speak the truth; needing/wishing to realize yourself will ultimately lead to you realizing yourself in one way or another, and integrating your subconscious psychic processes into your conscious personality will help you realize yourself! It is one of many paths but I speak of it because it has personally aided me immensely and because I’ve come to understand that integration will help anyone who is willing to undertake the process, you included! It’s also important to note that if you make this decision you won’t be able to turn back; that is, you normally cannot fit back into your old personality once you’ve gained the wisdom and knowledge that comes with integration until you are very advanced in this area of life!

It’s Important To Have An Open Mind

When integrating yourself it’s extremely important to know that you’ll come across psychic processes that will appear to be one thing and really be something different. Here’s an example:

“An image comes up from the depths of your mind. You are on the street, but nobody else is. It’s dark, misty, and smells faintly of homeless cats. Out of nowhere a man jumps out of the bushes and rushes towards you.”

At this point, most people would block this image out since they have a strong fear of death! They would dismiss the image as “a nightmare” or a “terrible thought” (depending on if they’re awake or asleep). However, in this hypothetical scenario, the person experiencing the subconscious image has decided to have an open mind and see what it really is they need to see, and so the story ends as such:

“As he rushes towards you you remain calm. Frighteningly calm. When he’s just about to tackle you, you move to the side and he falls through the ground into a bottomless void, lost but not forgotten.”

When you ask yourself, “Why do I feel this way” you will (likely) tend to answer yourself through what I like to call “mental videos,” and these “mental videos” are going to feel unpleasant until they are truly realized (in other words, until the video ends without any prompting from yourself). It will feel even more unpleasant to ask yourself this question and then proceed to consciously suppress the image as it comes to your attention, although this is quite common when you’re first starting out.

If you’re reading this post then you (probably) have an open mind! However, it is always important to consciously open your mind by saying something to the extent of “I choose to have an open mind” as often as possible so that the integration process isn’t unnecessarily painful! If you do this enough some of these subconscious processes may approach you without the need to search for them, and this is the ideal state to be in – a state of complete acceptance and trust in your self (your thoughts, mental videos, images, beliefs, feelings, etc)!

Societal Boundaries

Some of our repressed qualities come from accepting or denying parts of life that other people accept or deny. When we’re born we’re told what we can and cannot do, and then we grow up and tell other people what they can and cannot do. This has led to a society that (as a whole) accepts certain things (such as football) and (as a whole) rejects/doesn’t know much about other things (like spirituality).

Unfortunately for us Americans, many of us do not live in a society that values (or is even knowledgeable about) mental health, so following the crowd will almost always lead to compliance and suffering, but most of us have followed the crowd enough to be psychologically damaged and in need of integration.

We have the church, for example. One of the biggest rules of the church is to refrain from sexuality until you are married and to only have sex with your partner. However, if there’s one thing you don’t want to do it’s repressing a desire that you feel. This doesn’t only apply to sexual desire – it can manifest as a desire to see a movie, travel, hang out with a certain group of people, etc etc. The reason for this is that repression always leads to an increase in neuroticism (the personality trait). Invariably. All the time.

However, the church isn’t the only social construction that has the potential to rob us of our mental health – almost all social constructions exist to turn a profit (politics, government, most corporations, etc) and/or are misguided in their ways. Some of them (like the church and the government) are even interested in asserting and maintaining control over our minds, and this is a big part of the “social awakening” that you could be going through right now. I won’t get into this much further (I’ll cover it in a future post) but watch for any organization that imposes boundaries on other people in one form or another, and ask yourself if they have imposed such a boundary onto you, as this may contribute to your need for integration.

We also have these deadly things called social norms, and they (usually) don’t explicitly tell us what we can and cannot do (like the law does) but people who follow these norms live by an assumption that looks something like this: “If you do this a certain way, we’ll accept and respect you. If you decide to do it a different way we’ll have to pretend we don’t know you, we may even treat you with disgust, and we certainly won’t be able to accept you as you are.” Many, many people fall into the trap of following social norms since most of us have the need to feel accepted, but what they don’t realize is that they’re rejecting certain parts of themselves when they conform to society’s standards, which in turn creates neuroticism inside the individual’s psyche that needs to be healed.

In order to move outside of “the circle of society,” we must become aware of our society’s customs, norms, dos and don’ts, and what’s acceptable and what isn’t. It’s also important to be aware of the norms and dos and don’ts of the community (whether that be your church, your school, etc) you grew up in and the community you’re living in now (provided you’ve moved at one point or another). Being aware of these rules will help you understand the people who live(d) by them, and particularly how the people in your community treated you while growing up as a child. Once you know the dos and don’ts of your community, then you can get a pretty good idea of which parts of you you were taught to suppress, and these are the parts that are asking to consciously be integrated into your personality.

It should be noted that time is mostly wasted by mourning the past; that is to say, we can blame other people for the problems we have, but the hurt we feel comes from the expectation that such people were supposed to do better and treat us better than they did. In reality, we are the ones who control ourselves, even if someone has convinced us that we should control ourselves in a certain way. If you didn’t know that before, you know it now, and now you have the choice to ignore this fact or to keep it in mind as we move forward to the next section!

Personal Experiences

There is another kind of neuroticism that can take place, but this is more of a personal nature than what I’ve described above. Let’s say you’re a small child, and you’re about to go on your first airplane flight. You may be excited because you’re going to do a big grownup thing that you’ve only heard about up until this point. Your parents give you a window seat, the captain announces take off, and before you know it you’re soaring 40,000 feet above the ground! You decide to look down to see what it’s like and suddenly you’re stricken with a stifling fear that makes you quickly look away, and this fear (albeit unconsciously) stays with you until adulthood as a somewhat common “fear of flying.”

Obviously, the possibilities are infinite, but I will point out that personal neuroticism is usually much more meaningful to overcome than social neuroticism. It is usually the case that one awakens to the state of their community before awakening to their own personal trauma within. It’s also easier and better to heal personal trauma since by doing this, you (usually) skip the step of being angry at society for causing all of your problems anyway!

Subconscious Repression

Whether suggested by society or simply because of personal preference, repression is done by ourselves to ourselves. This fact can be easily conceptualized, but it can be very difficult to fully realize since most of us are very used to repressing the parts of life we don’t agree with. But this is good news in the sense that we have the ability to find the parts of ourselves that are repressed and integrate them into our conscious lives!

It will become apparent that healing your repression gives more meaning than healing socially encouraged repression, however, both sources of repression must be addressed by you and it can be found to be one or the other by your own judgment, and both can be healed through your own power.

Here is the process:

1. Sit in a quiet environment, away from others. The reason for this is so that you can observe the thoughts/feelings running through your mind, heart, soul, and body.

2. Feel the feelings and think the thoughts that you deem uncomfortable. There is no need to do anything except breathe during this stage, and I recommend that you attempt to see the pictures and/or mental videos that are associated with such thoughts/feelings in your mind.

3. It may go down in intensity on its own, or it may not. Either way, it’s best to consciously accept these repressed/unintegrated parts of you and see anything they have to show you in your mind’s eye. This can simply be done by saying “I choose to accept these parts of me and treat them with love and compassion.”

4. Disidentify from it by saying, “I choose to disidentify from this belief/feeling.” Then, ask yourself, “Why do I think or feel this way?” The answer you receive is an intuitive answer (I.E. it will be from yourself to yourself) that may lead to more questions. Answering these follow-up questions until no more questions are asked is the doorway to realizing the next subconscious process that is asking to be integrated.

5. Repeat as needed!

It’s important to note that you aren’t trying to get rid of these parts of yourself; instead, you’re trying to accept them, knowing that they are a part of you (you can even choose to mature these parts of yourself)! This can either be depressing or liberating, depending on where you are in your development, but if you find this depressing then it is most important to ask yourself, “Why do I feel this way?” And this is where I start the next section.

Asking Questions

Asking yourself, “Why do I feel what I feel?” is the most important step after realizing what you feel. If you simply feel your subconscious pain you will see the images that accompany it, and that may be enough, but if the “problem” still lingers then the next step is to ask questions. If, for example, I’m feeling depressed then I can say, “I wish to feel this depression and accept it for what it is.” However, then I can ask, “Why do I feel depressed?” and come up with an answer; “Because I feel lonely.” Then I ask myself, “Why do I feel lonely?” only to find that I don’t have any real friends in my life. I can go even further and ask, “Why do I lack real friends?” and answer myself with, “Because I’m not a real friend myself.” So then I ask why that is, and I can answer myself by saying that I stay too busy to spend any quality time with genuinely good people.

The more you question your current state the more answers you will receive. Some of these answers will be welcome and some will be painful, but if you wish to integrate yourself then it’s best to find the root of an issue by consciously accepting the thought/feeling and then asking questions regarding it so that you may travel deeper into the root or find another issue altogether (both are possible).

Asking questions about your dreams will help you in this regard as well, and it’s easy – it simply involves asking yourself the significance of the dream that you remember from the previous night. If someone is particularly notable in your dream you may ask, “Why do I remember that person?” or “What was so interesting about that box?” The answers you receive will eventually point to a part of yourself that would like to be recognized, accepted, and integrated, but it’s time to end this quite lengthy post.

Conclusion

The steps and conceptualization are documented here but the experiences you have will make one of the greatest adventures of your life. Paying attention to your inner life is the first step towards healing yourself, and cultivating a loving attitude towards yourself (and life in general) is a very meaningful (and adventurous) path to take if you so choose to! If you enjoyed this post, you’ll probably enjoy the post I’ve written about emotional suppression as well!

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